Have you heard of the five love languages? This is a framework developed by Gary Chapman to help us do better in ALL our relationships – romantic love relationships, family relationships, friend relationships, and even work relationships. Intrigued? I was very curious about this approach, and I can tell you it works. By figuring out the love language of those close to you, you can make them feel loved, appreciated, and seen. And by knowing your own love language, you can tell others how to better love and appreciate you.
The five love languages (in order of popularity) are: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch, and receiving gifts. Words of affirmation are simply noticing what your partner is doing right and commenting on it – complements, encouragement, and professions of love all count. Quality time is time spent together just focused on each other, with minimal interruptions and distractions. Acts of service are the little things you do for your partner, like making dinner or cleaning the car. Physical touch is just what it sounds like – hugs, kisses, and so on. Receiving gifts is all about material gifts, physical representations of a relationship and love.
While some love languages are more popular than others, there are about the same amount of people who prefer each. So you can’t just assume someone’s love language is words of affirmation or quality time. It may be gifts, which is an entirely different sort of love language. This is where my latest quiz comes in. You can take it to determine your love language, and have someone in your life that you care about take it with you.
Check out What’s Your Love Language? to find out what your love language is. And don’t just stop there… have your loved ones take it too! I think love languages are such a powerful tool. Do you agree? Comment below with your love language result. Does it sound true for you?