Do you speak up for yourself? Or do you tend to let things lie? I don’t think I would consider myself a doormat, although like most people, I probably could have better boundaries. I tend to avoid confrontation, but if someone is really bugging me, I will let that person know… or get away from her quickly. It depends on who it is!
I have been thinking a lot lately about people who are doormats vs those who are balanced vs those who never would let anyone walk all over them. In particular, I think that striking the right balance between doormat and let’s say “justice warrior” can lead to increased happiness and reduced anxiety. I know for myself that a lot of my anxiety is rooted in being afraid of not handling situations well. If I think I’m going to get taken advantage of, I get nervous. But I also get nervous if I think I’m going to be too confrontational with someone getting under my skin.
Thinking about the balance and difficulty it takes to not be a doormat made me wrote my latest quiz: Are You a Doormat? Let me know what you get on this quiz, and what you think about standing up for yourself in general. Does dealing with difficult people or situations give you anxiety, or do you have a way of dealing with things that works well for you?