Are you big on forgiveness? I know that a lot of religions and belief systems place a huge importance on forgiveness, but I think it’s more interesting to look at forgiveness from a psychological point of view. There have been studies that show that forgiveness is good for us – it makes us healthier and happier. However, there are also some people that think unconditional forgiveness can perpetuate authoritarianism and abuse. So is forgiveness not all it seems?
I’m not sure how I feel about forgiveness completely, but I generally think it’s good to let go of what others have done to you – even if that isn’t technically forgiving them. I assume that most of the positive psychology studies about forgiveness are focusing on the “shelving” of the past and wrongdoings. As far as forgiveness perpetuating an unhealthy dynamic, I suppose that depends on whether you are changing boundaries and relationships before you forgive… or just forgiving blindly.
Anyway, I thought this would be an interesting topic for a quiz, and maybe even a discussion about what the concept of forgiveness means to all of us. I’m still figuring it out myself, but I do think there is a difference between forgiving and forgetting… and forgiving and not forgetting! How about you? Do You Forgive and Forget? Let me know what you get on this quiz and think of this topic.
Discussion topics (Comment below and let me know any or all of these):
- What do you get on Do You Forgive and Forget? Is it true for you?
- How do you feel about forgiving others? Are you quick or reluctant to do so?
- Do you agree that there are downsides to forgiveness? Or do you think that people who claim this misunderstand what forgiveness is?
- Take Do You Hold a Grudge? What do you think of your result?