Do you believe in being self-compassionate? I believe in it, even though practicing it isn’t the easiest. I think we should strive to be easy on ourselves because no one else might be. And I also see self-compassion as the first step in change. You can’t make a positive improvement if you’re beating yourself up about something.
I had a challenging moment of self-compassion yesterday. I temporarily broke the Blogthings database by putting a semicolon in the wrong place somewhere. An easy mistake to make, but I wasn’t so easy on myself about it. Of course, making myself feel bad about my little mistake made everything worse. I had to step back, collect myself, and realize that this would be a perfect time to practice showing myself some compassion, empathy, and understanding 🙂
According to some research I found, there are three elements of self-compassion. The first element of self-compassion is self-kindness. This means being warm and loving toward ourselves when we fail or are in pain. The second element of self-compassion is recognizing your “common humanity.” Knowing that you are human and that you will make mistakes, suffer, have bad days and so on. For some reason, this is hard to admit at our worst moments – at least it is for me. The final element of self-compassion is mindfulness. Being aware of negative feelings and thoughts but not letting them become a part of who we are.
I agree that the above are all important aspects to caring for yourself, and I incorporated them in my latest quiz Are You Compassionate Toward Yourself? As always, there is not a right or wrong way to score on this one, so be sure to be easy on yourself even if you don’t get the result you want 🙂
Discussion topics (Comment below and let me know any or all of these):
- What do you get on Are You Compassionate Toward Yourself?
Is it true for you?
- What’s something you do to be compassionate with yourself?
- Do you think you’re too easy or too hard on yourself?