Are you a good friend? I bet you are. Everyone who comments on this blog is so kind, self-aware, and interesting that I’m sure you’re all awesome friends in real life 🙂 Good friendship is something I’m appreciating as I get older, and I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what makes a good friend. I think we’ve all had to decide what friendships to nurture and what friendships to let go over the years, and it helps to be clear on what qualities we’re looking for in our very best friends.
When I was younger, I was looking for friends who were a lot of fun. I loved people who lived dramatic and crazy lives, even if that brought a lot of drama into the friendships. And while the drama queens of the world are still entertaining in small doses, I find that I’m looking for a little more stability these days. I appreciate the company of compassionate, accepting, and open people. But I don’t want someone who doesn’t have any edge! Some of my best friends are snarky and hilarious, but they also know when to lend an ear and just listen.
Thinking about the good friends I have and the people I’d like to get closer to led me to write: What Makes You a Good Friend? I know that everyone can’t be an ideal friend to everyone else, but I think we’re all capable of being good friends of one sort or another. Maybe you’re not in the right frame of mind to be universally supportive of a friend, but maybe you can give her the honesty she needs right now. And maybe you’re not the most fun friend when you have a lot going on in your life, but at least you’re loyal.
Anyway, please take What Makes You a Good Friend? and let me know what you get. Do you agree with your result? What kind of friend are you looking for these days?