Are you an open person? Or are you more of a closed book? I find it interesting (and at times frustrating) how we all have different comfort levels with openness. I think we’ve all known someone who was too closed and hard to know… and someone who maybe was a little “TMI” (too much information) at first. I think it’s important to strike a balance, although it’s not always easy.
I know for myself, I always struggle with how much to disclose to people. I think I’m a naturally closed person, and sometimes I am tempted to overcompensate by being a bit too open 🙂 I feel like there is a danger in disclosing too much – I don’t want to be that bore always talking about herself. Also, I feel like too much self-disclosure can lead to people gossiping about you, or simply being too interested in your life. And I don’t want that!
On the other hand, being open and connecting is a huge part of being human. Studies show that self-disclosure brings us closer to one another, and it’s essential for promoting self-worth. Makes sense to me! It doesn’t feel good to feel like you have to hide who you are or what you believe. It’s empowering to be honest and open… and to see where the chips fall.
When thinking about self-disclosure and openness, it occurred to me that a lot of this boils down to how much mystery we each preserve in our own lives. Do we keep something (or a lot) for ourselves? Or is there no mystery? And that’s what inspired my latest quiz: How Mysterious Are You?
Take How Mysterious Are You?, and let me know what you get. Do you consider yourself a mysterious person? How do you feel about openness and self-disclosure in general?