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New Quiz: Are You a Doormat?

Smiling confident girl

Are you a doormat? Or do you tend to stick up for yourself?

Do you speak up for yourself? Or do you tend to let things lie? I don’t think I would consider myself a doormat, although like most people, I probably could have better boundaries. I tend to avoid confrontation, but if someone is really bugging me, I will let that person know… or get away from her quickly. It depends on who it is!

I have been thinking a lot lately about people who are doormats vs those who are balanced vs those who never would let anyone walk all over them. In particular, I think that striking the right balance between doormat and let’s say “justice warrior” can lead to increased happiness and reduced anxiety. I know for myself that a lot of my anxiety is rooted in being afraid of not handling situations well. If I think I’m going to get taken advantage of, I get nervous. But I also get nervous if I think I’m going to be too confrontational with someone getting under my skin.

Thinking about the balance and difficulty it takes to not be a doormat made me wrote my latest quiz: Are You a Doormat? Let me know what you get on this quiz, and what you think about standing up for yourself in general. Does dealing with difficult people or situations give you anxiety, or do you have a way of dealing with things that works well for you?

  1. What do you get on Are You a Doormat? Is it true for you?
  2. When do you think it’s important to stand up for yourself? And when do you let things slide?
  3. Are you more likely to confront someone and regret it? Or regret not saying anything?
  4. Take Are You Confident? What do you think of your result?

New Quiz: How Will You Get to the Top?

blonde girl writing on steps

What makes you a success? Take my latest quiz to find your quickest way to the top.

Have you thought about what makes you successful in life? And also maybe what factors for success that are not so strong for you? I have spent a lot of time thinking about both these things. Like many of you, I have my strengths and weaknesses – and they are pretty obvious. I may do okay when it comes to creativity in work and thinking up ideas… but working with others is not my strong suit. I would not do well with office politics, and I’m probably not assertive enough for most corporate environments. Some people I know, on the other hand, are socially savvy. They may not be the most creative or hard working, but they make themselves indispensable with people skills.

I love the idea of figuring out the strengths that each of us have in life. I buy a lot into popular positive psychology and its idea of finding your own strengths to emphasize. Some of us may never be good at small talk or math or design – and that’s fine. Use what you’ve got, and you’ll get far. My latest quiz, How Will You Get to the Top?, is inspired by this idea. Let me know what you get, and what your strengths are.

Discussion topics (Comment below and let me know any or all of these):

  1. What do you get on How Will You Get to the Top? Is it true for you?
  2. What do you think is your strength in life? (This could be a career strength, a school strength, or any other sort of strength that makes you more effective.)
  3. What’s a strength that others have that you feel like you lack? Or that you’re at least not above average for? How do you compensate with other strengths?
  4. Take What Should You Work With? What do you think of your result?

 

New Quiz: Do You Forgive and Forget?

woman resting happily on bicycle

Do you believe in forgiveness? How easily do you forgive?

Are you big on forgiveness? I know that a lot of religions and belief systems place a huge importance on forgiveness, but I think it’s more interesting to look at forgiveness from a psychological point of view. There have been studies that show that forgiveness is good for us – it makes us healthier and happier. However, there are also some people that think unconditional forgiveness can perpetuate authoritarianism and abuse. So is forgiveness not all it seems?

I’m not sure how I feel about forgiveness completely, but I generally think it’s good to let go of what others have done to you – even if that isn’t technically forgiving them. I assume that most of the positive psychology studies about forgiveness are focusing on the “shelving” of the past and wrongdoings. As far as forgiveness perpetuating an unhealthy dynamic, I suppose that depends on whether you are changing boundaries and relationships before you forgive… or just forgiving blindly.

Anyway, I thought this would be an interesting topic for a quiz, and maybe even a discussion about what the concept of forgiveness means to all of us. I’m still figuring it out myself, but I do think there is a difference between forgiving and forgetting… and forgiving and not forgetting! How about you? Do You Forgive and Forget? Let me know what you get on this quiz and think of this topic.

Discussion topics (Comment below and let me know any or all of these):

  1. What do you get on Do You Forgive and Forget? Is it true for you?
  2. How do you feel about forgiving others? Are you quick or reluctant to do so?
  3. Do you agree that there are downsides to forgiveness? Or do you think that people who claim this misunderstand what forgiveness is?
  4. Take Do You Hold a Grudge? What do you think of your result?

New Quiz: The Rock-Paper-Scissors Test

symbols for rock, paper, and scissors

What do you choose: rock, paper, or scissors? And what does it say about you?

Have you ever played rock-paper-scissors? For those of you who may not be familiar with the game, it’s a simple way to determine a winner in a short amount of time. Each player makes a hand signal signifying rock, paper, or scissors at the exact same time. If both players make the same signal, that round is a tie. However, if the signals are different, then someone wins the game. In a game with rock and scissors, rock wins because rock crushes scissors. In a game with scissors and paper, scissors win because scissors cut paper.  In a game with paper and rock, paper wins, because paper covers rock.

Whew! Now that everyone is caught up to speed on rock-paper-scissors, let’s talk strategy. I know that everyone has one, and some are better than others. I’m typically pretty terrible at rock-paper-scissors because I’m easily psyched out, but I have found that the best strategy is to try to do whatever the other player last did. It tends to psych people out. I actually read that the best strategy for rock-paper-scissors may be to play it with your eyes closed, so you’re not influenced by what the other player is doing. Crazy!

No matter what you decide for how you play rock-paper-scissors, you have to start with a certain choice… and that can be difficult if you don’t know how the other person plays. It turns out that many people think your personality has a lot to do with if you choose rock, paper, or scissors. Do you agree? Take The Rock-Paper-Scissors Test. Does your result fit you?

Discussion topics (Comment below and let me know any or all of these):

  1. What do you get on The Rock-Paper-Scissors Test? Is it true for you?
  2. Do you like playing rock-paper-scissors? Why or why not?
  3. Do you have an a rock-paper-scissors strategy? Or do you just do it randomly?
  4. Take Are You Rock, Paper, or Scissors? What do you think of your result?

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New Quiz: What’s Your Sense of Humor Like?

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What sort of sense of humor do you have? Take my quiz to find out!

Do you have a good sense of humor? Even if don’t think you’re all that funny, you probably have a better sense of humor than you realize. Maybe you’re simply sarcastic and quippy… or witty and observational. I think we all have varying humor personalities – both in the humor we use and the humor we appreciate. That’s why sometimes the best joke goes flat with the “wrong crowd” or why your friends think you’re hilarious, even when you aren’t trying to be.

I have been wanting to write a quiz about humor style for a while, but I didn’t know where to begin. There’s so many types of humor in the world, and trying to break humor into categories seemed like an impossible task to me. Luckily, I stumbled upon the research of Dr. Rod Martin recently, and I liked the way he put humor into four categories. I have drawn from his basic framework for this quiz, but I will admit that I tweaked it a bit. I found his research to be a bit preachy and labeling for my taste, and I wanted a humor quiz to be fun!

Anyway, take What’s Your Sense of Humor Like?, and let me know what you get. Does your result fit you? I’d love to hear more about what sort of humor you like in the comments below!

Discussion topics (Comment below and let me know any or all of these):

  1. What do you get on What’s Your Sense of Humor Like? Is it true for you?
  2. Do you consider yourself  funny person? Why or why not?
  3. Have you consciously worked on being funnier? Or does whatever sense of humor you have come naturally to you?
  4. What comedians, tv shows, and / or movies do you find funny?
  5. Take Do You Have a Good Sense of Humor? What do you think of your result?

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New Quiz: How Optimistic Are You?

happy woman with green leaf

Are you optimistic enough? Take my latest quiz to find out.

Did you grow up taking quizzes in magazines? I did on occasion… magazines were a bit of a luxury in my house. Whenever I could get my hands on a magazine – at the doctor’s office, the library, a friend’s house, etc – I flipped through it quickly to see if I could find a quiz. I would be quite surprised if many of you didn’t do the exact same thing. I assume that many of us have loved quizzes and pop psychology for a long time 🙂

These days quizzes in magazines can be quite fancy, but when I was growing up they had a basic format that they rarely deviated from. Magazine quizzes were basic – ten questions and three outcomes. They tended to address a simple life issue, and there was usually a result at each extreme and one in the middle which was the “best” result. The questions tended to revolve around life scenarios… “what would you do?” and “how would you react?” type questions. A lot of magazines used this type of quiz, but the ones I remember most were Teen, Seventeen, Sassy, and of course, Cosmopolitan.

If you look at some of the early Blogthings quizzes, many of them are in this early “magazine” style. As I learned more about programming and writing, my quizzes got more complicated and varied. However, the magazine style of writing quizzes still has a place in my heart, and I thought it would be fun to write one in that way for nostalgia’s sake. So I present How Optimistic Are You?, an old fashioned women’s magazine style quiz – but updated for a more diverse and modern audience 🙂 Let me know what you get on this one!

  1. What do you get on How Optimistic Are You? Is it true for you?
  2. Do you think there is such a thing as being too optimistic? Why or why not?
  3. Did you take magazines in quizzes when you were growing up? Which magazines?
  4. What things in your life do you tend to be optimistic about?
  5. What things in your life do you tend to be pessimistic about?
  6. Take Are You An Optimist or Pessimist? What do you think of your result?

New Quiz: Are You An Early Adopter?

woman with lightbulb

Do you embrace new technology and ideas? Or do you stick to what’s tried and true?

Are you the first person you know to buy a new gadget, try a new idea, discover a new band, or go to a new restaurant? If so, you may be what people call an “early adopter” – someone who notices and embraces trends right before they become popular. And early means very early – early adopters represent the first ten to fifteen percent of a product or idea’s customer base.

If you’re like me, you’ve probably hear the term “early adopter” before. I was surprised to learn that there is a whole lifecycle to how an idea, trend, or product gets adopted. The early adopters come early, but there’s a few people even earlier than them… the innovators. And after the early adopters, the early majority embraces a trend, followed by the late majority. Finally, people who are more traditional (“traditionalists”) may or may not embrace something once it becomes mainstream.

I find this a fascinating topic, and research seems to suggest that whether you embrace something quickly or slowly says a lot about your personality. Makes sense – there is a huge gulf between innovator and traditionalist. I thought that this would be an interesting topic to write about, and I decided to widen it a bit past technology. Not all of us can afford the latest Apple gadgets, but many of us are quick to adopt new ideas, foods, and fashion trends 🙂

To find out where you are on the adoption lifecycle, take my latest quiz: Are You An Early Adopter? Let me know what you get on this one, and what you think about new ideas / technology / trends in general.

Discussion topics (Comment below and let me know any or all of these):

  1. What do you get on Are You An Early Adopter? Is it true for you?
  2. What sort of things do you tend to be an early adopter for?
  3. What sort of things do you tend to be a late adopter for?
  4. Have you ever been an early adopter of something that didn’t work out?

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New Quiz: What Do You Prioritize?

people - planet - profit - principles

Which of these do you put first?

Have you thought about what your life priorities are? I admit that when I was younger, I did not. I used to feel like I was doing it all (even though I wasn’t), and prioritizing felt like giving up. Over time I’ve come down to earth and realized I can’t do it all. And if I don’t prioritize, I end up neglecting everything. I’ve had to take stock of what’s important (health, family, friends, and business) and let the else sort of fall away.

Of course, day to day focus is just one sort of prioritization. I could write a quiz about it, but I figured you all probably know what you’re zoning in on right now. As some commenters would say “I don’t need a quiz for that!” You don’t need a quiz to tell you whether you’re in work or family or self-improvement mode right now.

What I started thinking about was something different. A more meta point about priorities. What do you prioritize overall in your life. It’s another twist on the whole question of life philosophy, and I think it’s an interesting one. What is your overarching framework for doing what you do? Are you putting yourself first, other people, a set of rules…? I think it’s interesting stuff.

With all that in mind, I wrote What Do You Prioritize? This quiz will tell you what you’re really putting first in your life, and you may be surprised with the results. Comment below and let me know what you think of you result!

Discussion topics (Comment below and let me know any or all of these):

  1. What do you get on What Do You Prioritize? Is it true for you?
  2. What do you prioritize most in your life? The least?
  3. How have your priorities evolved over time?

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New Quiz: Are You Playful?

Woman happily playing with leaves

Are you a playful person? Take my latest quiz to find out?

Happy April Fools’ Day! Let me get something out of the way right now. There will be now April Fools’ Day pranks on this blog, so you can breathe a big sigh of relief and read this post without skepticism or cynicism. I think there are more than enough pranks and sill jokes to go around on this day, so I like to opt out.

While I decided not to prank you guys, I did want to make something themed around April Fools’ Day. It’s a fun day (at least in small doses), and I was thinking about how some of use love it and some of us feel frustrated by it. My theory is that it all comes down to playfulness. The more playful you are, the more you will enjoy little jokes and pranks. It also explains why I like this holiday when it falls on the weekend but why I might have trouble with it on a Monday morning 😉

Did you know that playfulness is actually something that psychologists study and measure? When I started doing research for my latest quiz, I was surprised to find playfulness scales for adults, teenagers, and children. Makes sense to me. Play is a powerful thing! It brings us together, helps us fight stress, and opens us up to creativity.

So on this most playful day of the year, I feel like it’s only appropriate to ask: Are You Playful? I personally consider myself to be a pretty playful person, but probably I am not as playful as I’d like to be. I’m still working on that whole stress management thing 😉

P.S. If you’re feeling even more April Fools-y, take a couple past themed April Fools quizzes:

Discussion topics (Comment below and let me know any or all of these):

  1. What do you get on Are You Playful? Is it true for you?
  2. Do you like April Fools’ Day? Why or why not?
  3. What’s the best April Fools’ Day prank you’ve ever seen?

New Quiz: Are You a Rule Breaker or a Rule Maker?

Woman peeking out from under wild hair

Do you like to follow the rules?

Do you like to follow the rules? I’ll admit that I’m a begrudging rule follower. I have the heart of a rebel, and it’s my first instinct to want to ignore and break all rules. However, I’ve learned that breaking the rules can be stressful, so I usually just follow the rules anyway. I suppose that I’m a wannabe rule breaker – at least when it comes to the law.

When it comes to less set in stone rules, I’m a total rule breaker. I have been working on Blogthings for almost ten years, even though people nag me to get a “real job.” (Too late – I’m hooked!) I also broke the rules by doing my education a bit differently than most I know. Oh, and by marrying Mr. Blogthings only after we had been dating a few weeks.

So yeah, I’m no lawbreaker, but I’m not so big on rules. I try to set as few rules for myself as possible. They’re too constricting. I admire, but can never understand, friends who go on very strict diets, fitness regimins, or budgets. It doesn’t seem like a lot of fun to me. I prefer to trust myself and take it how it comes. If I mess up a bit with my health or finances, maybe I’ll overcompensate a bit. No biggie.

What about you? Are rules important to you? Or would you rather throw your rules out the window? Find out with my latest quiz: Are You a Rule Breaker or a Rule Maker?

Discussion topics (Comment below and let me know any or all of these):

  1. What do you get on Are You a Rule Breaker or a Rule Maker? Is it true?
  2. Do you prefer lots of rules or lots of flexibility?
  3. What rule do you break, if any?
  4. If you could make everyone follow a rule, what would it be?