New Quiz: Are You Compassionate Toward Yourself?

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Are you easy on yourself?

Do you believe in being self-compassionate? I believe in it, even though practicing it isn’t the easiest. I think we should strive to be easy on ourselves because no one else might be. And I also see self-compassion as the first step in change. You can’t make a positive improvement if you’re beating yourself up about something.

I had a challenging moment of self-compassion yesterday. I temporarily broke the Blogthings database by putting a semicolon in the wrong place somewhere. An easy mistake to make, but I wasn’t so easy on myself about it. Of course, making myself feel bad about my little mistake made everything worse. I had to step back, collect myself, and realize that this would be a perfect time to practice showing myself some compassion, empathy, and understanding 🙂

According to some research I found, there are three elements of self-compassion. The first element of self-compassion is self-kindness. This means being warm and loving toward ourselves when we fail or are in pain. The second element of self-compassion is recognizing your “common humanity.” Knowing that you are human and that you will make mistakes, suffer, have bad days and so on. For some reason, this is hard to admit at our worst moments – at least it is for me. The final element of self-compassion is mindfulness. Being aware of negative feelings and thoughts but not letting them become a part of who we are.

I agree that the above are all important aspects to caring for yourself, and I incorporated them in my latest quiz Are You Compassionate Toward Yourself? As always, there is not a right or wrong way to score on this one, so be sure to be easy on yourself even if you don’t get the result you want 🙂

Discussion topics (Comment below and let me know any or all of these):

  1. What do you get on Are You Compassionate Toward Yourself?
    Is it true for you?
  2. What’s something you do to be compassionate with yourself?
  3. Do you think you’re too easy or too hard on yourself?

What do you think?

14 thoughts on “New Quiz: Are You Compassionate Toward Yourself?

  1. Amy

    I guess I’m the odd one out so far. I show myself very little compassion, if at all.

    You’ve been a little short on self-compassion these days, which is understandable. It’s hard to practice. When times are tough, we want to blame ourselves. But the truth is, you aren’t to blame, at least completely. If possible, try to practice the art of being easy on yourself. Even if (and especially if) you aren’t perfect. Whenever you can, be kind toward yourself and love yourself for who you are right now. Acceptance is a huge part of change. Take good care of yourself and put yourself first. Even if you aren’t the person you want to be, it’s not your fault. Try to put a cap on your negative self-talk. Your thoughts are just thoughts… they don’t have to dictate who you are.

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  2. Raynal Ramadhan

    Whenever possible, you try to be easy on yourself. You aren’t always compassionate, but you try.
    You believe it’s important to cut yourself a break, because no one else might. And you’re doing the best you can.

    You live a hectic life, and sometimes it’s hard to find the time or energy for self-care. You are still looking for the right balance.
    And when you’re having a hard day, it may be difficult to not beat up on yourself a bit when you’re feeling worn down.

    No worries if you’re not as self-compassionate as you’d like to be. You’re getting there, and that’s the important thing.
    Remember to be easy on yourself in every way. Even when you make mistakes, it doesn’t mean that you’re broken.

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  3. Josh

    You Show Yourself Some Compassion

    Whenever possible, you try to be easy on yourself. You aren’t always compassionate, but you try.
    You believe it’s important to cut yourself a break, because no one else might. And you’re doing the best you can.

    You live a hectic life, and sometimes it’s hard to find the time or energy for self-care. You are still looking for the right balance.
    And when you’re having a hard day, it may be difficult to not beat up on yourself a bit when you’re feeling worn down.

    No worries if you’re not as self-compassionate as you’d like to be. You’re getting there, and that’s the important thing.
    Remember to be easy on yourself in every way. Even when you make mistakes, it doesn’t mean that you’re broken.

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  4. Alyssa

    You Show Yourself Compassion

    This is true, but sometimes I don’t feel like this is true, and when times are hard I tend to forget to tell myself “I DO show self-compassion for myself!!”, but I’m getting over it and it feels easier. When the question “Do you feel like most people are happier than you?” I had to say ‘yes’. Sometimes things can be just really obvious and I’ve learned to accept the fact.

    You are well practiced in the art of self-compassion. You love and care for yourself unconditionally.
    You are kind to yourself. You may think negative thoughts about yourself, but you refuse to label yourself as anything bad.

    You allow yourself to make mistakes and mess up. It hurts, but you don’t compound the hurt by beating yourself up about it.
    You believe your flaws give you character. You recognize the humanity in yourself and embrace it.

    You are mindful of how much stress and negativity you take on in your life. You are big on self-care.
    Whenever you are getting overwhelmed or even too judgmental of yourself, you take a step back to breathe.

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    1. kari Post author

      Sounds like you show yourself a lot of compassion, but it’s hard to see from the outside sometimes 🙂 I agree that it gets easier. As for whether people are happier or not, it’s so difficult to tell – and probably not even important!

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  5. Lynn Sorel

    i got you show yourself compassion. and i know i do. i really love myself. and i’ve come to think that being overly hard on yourself or hating on yourself is self betrayal and i think it’s really important to love and take care of yourself. you are the closes person to you ultimately. so you really need to love yourself and be good to yourself.
    i try to look in the mirror with a positive mind – state of mind when looking at yourself or thinking about yourself is important. and focus on the things i like.
    i can be too hard on myself sometimes but once i came to this realization that it is self betrayal i try really hard to not do it. pms sometimes makes it hard. but i’m working on it!

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    1. Alyssa

      Ugh, I know!! PMS can be really hard to deal with. It can take the best of us sometimes. Love yourself, Lynn!!!

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      1. Mariam

        Hiiii…. I really thinks that each one in the world should deal the best with him or her-self. …. Cuz life is too short to be unhappy. .. I’m acually egyption and their is a proverb in arabic which says (من استحق أن يولد هو من عاش لنفسه) which means that the only person who really desirves to be born is the person who lived for himself…. So try your best to TC from URself. ….and happy mother’s dayyyyy 🙂
        BTW I loved your name Alyssa….

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    2. kari Post author

      I agree that “hating on yourself is self betrayal” – what a great way of putting it. Love all of your philosophy here, including just “working on it”! 🙂

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