New Quiz: Who Are You Looking For?

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Who is your ideal partner?

Have you ever had a friend whose partner totally rubbed you the wrong way? Your friend was perfectly happy with their sweetie, but you could never imagine being with that person in a million years. I think we’ve all been there, and it just goes to show how we all have different relationship needs. And it’s a good thing too – or else we’d all be falling in love with the same people.

I had been thinking for a while that we all have different relationship needs. And despite what the old adage says, I don’t really think opposites attract. I have believed for a long time now that like attracts like, and there is mounting social psychology evidence backing me up on this. I couldn’t imagine being with someone who was that different than me, as far as personality characteristics go. Yes, a little variety can add spice, but when you’re talking about things like conscientiousness, optimism, openness to experience… I think we’re best off with those like us. Do you agree?

I felt like my own theories about attraction were recently confirmed when I stumbled upon The Helen Fisher test (featured in the book Why Him? Why Her?: Finding Real Love By Understanding Your Personality Type) which tells you why you fall for the people you fall for. It’s scientifically based and quite interesting. Of course, I like to put my own spin on these things, so I wrote my own test that was heavily influenced by the research Dr. Fisher did – with my own research and intuition added: Who Are You Looking For?

Please take Who Are You Looking For?, and let me know what you got on the quiz. Do you feel like your result is accurate? Have you already found a partner that fits the bill? I’m also curious… do you think opposites attract or that like attracts like?

What do you think?

11 thoughts on “New Quiz: Who Are You Looking For?

  1. HadeerS

    Looking for a Help Mate

    Your ideal partner is equally responsible and community oriented. You’ll take predictability over craziness.
    You crave someone who is loyal, measured, and patient. You want a partner as capable as you are so that you can take on the world together.

    i think that was very accurate! thank you =)

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  2. Finji

    I got *Soul Mate*!
    No comments about that or maybe I am unconsciously looking for it 😀
    Just ended a 7 years relationship last year autumn 🙂

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  3. MechanicalLoser

    I also got “Mind Mate”, which I agree with entirely.
    “skeptical of anyone who gets in your way”
    “want to be with someone who is equally direct and driven”
    Those pretty much sum it up right there. Now I’ve got to find him! And that is a chore. Haha!

    Which one did you get, Miss Kari?

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    1. kari Post author

      I got Play Mate, which I think describes me to a ‘T’ 🙂

      I hope you find that perfect partner who complements and appreciates you!

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  4. mykingdomforadress

    You Are Looking for a Mind Mate

    You are a tough, no-nonsense type who takes a no frills approach to life. You’re not afraid to dig in and get things done.
    You are analytical and focused. You always have your goals in mind, and you are skeptical of anyone who gets in your way.

    You want to be with someone who is equally direct and driven. You don’t have time for distractions or drama.
    You admire someone who knows what they want, and you want a partner who is sure they want to be with you.

    You and your mind mate will be an unstoppable force. You both know how to prioritize what matters.
    You won’t spend a lot of time talking about feelings and problems. You’ll either solve them or move on from them.

    too bad I haven’t found him yet!

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